A friend on facebook put up a status recently stating that we hold on to memories because that's all what we are left with when people change. A wise statement that got me thinking...and agreeing. There was no debate involved here...what she said was an in-your-face fact that was sadly true.
Everybody's bound to have at least that one person with whom you won't hesitate spilling your guts out. And obviously, as that period of knowing each other increases, so does the strength of that bond. You will not be able to envisage a life without that one person anymore. But at that point, what you should remember is that the higher you go, the harder you fall...but being human has its negative side-effects. We tend not to think of a situation that might destroy our happiness while we are in it. And when you eventually fall, you are gonna suffer for it.
The real sad part is something else. People(at least the ones beyond their teen years) are not that stupid. They do accept that life isn't a bed of roses. Many of them do try to get up after getting beaten. In spite of being brought down, they move forward and continue being human. They continue trusting the ones who still remain in their lives. The real sad part is, despite this the process is repeated again. Yet another one leaves and never comes back. You can toughen up your defenses as much as you like, but no one you're close with is here to stay. They come, they change your life in some significant manner that leaves you either a better person or a complete screw-up, and then they go. Regardless of promises and crossings of hearts.
This made me wonder...is it all worth it? Is it worth letting a person get inside of you, allowing them to get to know you for what you are, thus cementing themselves a seemingly permanent position in your life? An emphatic answer of mine would be "hell no". You are alone, and you always will be. You can live your life by seeking the company of those around you but never getting emotionally attached. The danger signs should light up the moment a bond is created. It's all about being a little smarter in making your choices. Prevention is undoubtedly better than cure after all. Once fallen in the pit, it's impossible to claw your way out. If you succumb to the world of love and all that crap...well, it's gonna be one hell of a ride, alright. Surviving it is a different question.
But again, this is all just one single viewpoint. I can write a completely different blog efficiently portraying a picture of how depending, caring and loving are all right and good. They are...but the difference lies in not crossing the limit to the point where we are reduced to just holding on to our memories. Up to you if you want to be in that situation. Just remember...there is no permanent deletion for those memories. And they will destroy you.
This is vysh...signing out and back into his state of utter boredom.
